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After her transition, 90 Day Fiance star Alliya Batista does not want to look back at her past identity and life. She has come a long way since the days when she was Douglas. Now, she has a new identity and does not want to remember her roots. However, forgetting Douglas has not been easy for the ones around her who have seen her change over the years.
Alliya has been dating Shawn since she was Douglas, and he is trying his best to adopt her new identity, but he is struggling. The couple recently had an intense discussion about it. The couple first came on 90 Day Fiance: Love In Paradise. Alliya is from Rio De Janeiro, Brazil, and she moved to Los Angeles to be with her lover, Shawn. Their journey was not easy, and they even had a huge age gap of 36 years. However, the duo is trying to make things work.
90 Day Fiance: What Does Shawn Do For A Living?
Shawn Finch is a big name in Hollywood. He has earned his name through multiple Emmy awards in creative arts. He works as a stylist and enjoys seeing people transform under his hands. Shawn is primarily a makeup and hair artist who started working in 1996.
The 90 Day Fiance star has worked in both television and movies. Some of Shawn’s notable work can be seen in shows like Desperate Housewives and Ugly Betty, and films such as Scream and Men in Black. He also has a beauty salon in Santa Rosa, California.
90 Day Fiance: Alliya Does Not Want Shawn To Call Her By Her Deadname
Alliya was a man before. At that time, her name was Douglas. She has gone through several surgeries to become a lady, and now Shawn is struggling to accept his lover’s new identity. The couple has an over-thirty-year age gap, which is huge. Moreover, they are from different countries and cultures, so they are used to things working differently. Furthermore, Shawn mostly hides his and Alliya’s relationship from his friends and family.
In the recent scenario, fans saw how Shawn was still struggling to accept Alliya as a trans woman. He doesn’t want to forget Douglas. Alliya told him not to call her by her dead name. He keeps calling her by her past, and she feels weird. Shawn explains that he doesn’t want to offend her. However, if he does not call her ‘Douglas,’ it feels like he is erasing a part of their relationship.
After all, there is no Alliya without Douglas, and it’s a part of her identity. He was not deliberately trying to hurt her. Shawn further explained that Alliya would have to accept that there would be no Shawn and Alliya if there were no Shawn and Douglas. Alliya, in a way, understood Shawn’s perspective but was still upset over the situation. Shawn wasn’t ready to act like Douglas never existed.
Alliya accpeted his perspective and came up with a solution. She asked him to start calling her Alliya when they were alone. This way, he would gradually grow a habit of calling her with her new identity. Shawn also suggested that Alliya can directly ask their friends and family not to call her Douglas, as it makes her uncomfortable.
